Other shepherds were always losing their sheep to the wolves, the goats got lost on the way somehow, or the cows got sick from what they eat on the fields. I was successful because I was not herding the pack, I was herding the environment.
My grandfather was a shepherd in a small Anatolian village of Turkey in the ’50s. When talking about why he was a very successful shepherd, the words above stood out.
We’ll get more into my grandfather’s leadership experience with his pack and how it can improve your business in a bit. …
Let me tell you how my mom started meditation.
She always had some minor pains that were not medically diagnosable. She was not only reluctant but also resistant to my suggestions of meditation, seeing meditation as a pushed trend and promoted irrationally as if it is magic for everything.
Probably you have seen many wisdom and research findings of how mindfulness and meditation practice is the number one thing that successful and happy people share in common. Yet, it is hard to start for many. I know. Same with my mom. Plus, she was old-schooled in many ways, especially in…
When I said “first aid”, I am sure the first thing that comes to your mind is medical emergencies. As an amazingly effective way of approaching psychological emergencies, however, there is a framework that we psychologists use to help crisis situations.
I think, not only in crisis but also in everyday life, adapting this framework is helpful. Well, yes I personally use it too. Yes, it is a scientific framework. No, you don’t need to worry, it is totally doable.
Having said RAPID, an approach called RAPID is a framework of psychological first responders to approach people in times of…
Suicide. It is hard to stomach that a beloved one wants to die. It is even harder to sit with that idea. You are trying to do something impactful, say something effective, and do your best to convince that person not to commit.
I am a community mental health crisis specialist in the psychiatry emergency department, a first-hand witness of the mental health crisis, including the suicide problem. Here, I summarized a few of the very common and critical mistakes when approaching an acutely suicidal individual.
First, let’s assess the extent of your responsibility?
I know it is difficult to…
Sad story but true. First, let me tell you why this happens. As you grow up, your creativity and playfulness decline. This is as known as when spontaneity is replaced by anxiety in psychology. Instead of replacing it, I am inviting you to replaying it.
As a psychologist, here I listed how and why you can “replay” your authentic entrepreneur mindset playfully and creatively.
I am saying “replay” because you don’t need to learn it; your playful inner child already knows it.
Remember how you were doing things for the sake of joy you can get out of it. You…
When I was an undergrad in psychology, I was both curious about the impact of positive psychology and suspicious about its promises. Being divided into two, I started reading more and more. This was the decision for me to which part of psychology I will be in: ill-being or well-being.
The more I read about, the more I was sure that mental health is not about being free from mental disorders. It was about having vitality, joy, purpose in life, meaningful connections with others, having a sense of agency, behaving authentically, and thriving in general. …
I was at primary school when I first realized what privilege is. At 7 years old, a son of a parliament member was my classmate and he was in love with me. I know, I know. What kind of a love it can be at that age… I mean, he was doing every childish thing that can be done at that age to get my attention. Meanwhile, I was at one hand enjoying his effort, and at one hand was worried about what if I make him upset or mad by not responding to his “love”. …
The science of wellbeing suggests the importance of here & now and the importance of goal setting/future planning.
Yet, that does not necessarily mean being hedonistically in present and careless about the future. Or, that does not necessarily mean merely and obsessively planning the future without experiencing the present. However, we sometimes misinterpret these two and assume that we must either speed up and pick one, mostly for the sake of securing the future.
What is Here & Now? Sometimes I feel guilty of having joy at an exact moment. Maybe I am taking care of myself. Maybe I am…
Because we are COGNITIVE MISERS!
That means we don’t want to think so much, we want to get rid of much of the decision making cognitive load, and we are prone to rely on existing wisdom instead of enduring the pain of learning from trial and error.
Is this something good or bad, though? American Psychological Association defines cognitive miser as:
anyone who seeks out quick, adequate solutions to problems rather than slow, careful ones. …
Sorry, no sorry, but this is the misunderstanding of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. If you are ready, here is the biiiiig fact check.
There is no Maslow’s hierarchy of well-being.
What Maslow originally suggested is the deprivation needs can dominate human motivation when they are lacking. Therefore these might prevent us from a psychologically fulfilling life. These deprivation needs are the ones that we cannot live with.
And then now we have time and energy to be happy. Right?
NO! Because we also have growth needs at each level. However, sacrificing the psychological needs…